Here we have the luxury of living in isolation. Dislike, indifference, apathy and silence … It is the modern life that many couples today are living together as strangers. There is a need for autonomy, but not for love. We spend our time on social media platform, and yet we feel lonely. We have hundreds of friends online, but we are not comfortable to say hi to one of them if we pass on the street. We know personal details about the others, but we find it difficult making time to see them. Sharing/liking photos, commenting on someone’s wall or retweeting are poor substitutes for the real thing. We frequently shy away from making decisions, we are lazy and we have fear of rejection. Do we know how to sustain pleasure in intimate relationship? Intimacy involves both emotional and physical openness. While sex is a good part of a relationship, it shouldn't be the only factor. Close relationships are based on a deep biological need. We should have the opportunity to express the intensity of our emotions. We know that infants need to be held and touched. Skin-to-skin contact between infant and parent is important for consistent emotional engagement. What we often forget is that the need for connection never goes away. We don’t just need a husband/wife. We want someone who would inspire and encourage us. Ego, anger and selfishness are causing us to part ways more than ever before. We wall off parts of ourselves and withdraw emotionally from the relationship.
A relationship is:
Where we act like adults.
Where we can be smooth with each other.
Where we show how much we care each other.
Where we can be serious with each other.
Where we make memories that last a lifetime.
Since intimacy is not only made of online dating apps, Joana and I think it will be interesting to see how we as humans are connected. Relationship is an invisible contract, and this project is just a start up…
Ready, set, go!
We're nailing down the details of the process and hope to post to the public this week. We'll share our short ad with friends and acquaintances, especially chatting with friends in the bioart community. We'll also start preparing the packets for participants including the t-shirt and instructions.
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Pooneh Heshmati is an award-winning cognitive neuroscientist, physician, and post doctoral researcher at Northwell Health in New York.
Joana Ricou is an award-winning NYC-based artist, and creative director of Regenerative Medicine Partnership for Life.